If no option stands out, you could just flip a coin – often you are simply taking a stab in the dark anyway‘We fret and stew, as if hoping through sheer effort to see into the future.’ Illustration: Michele Marconi for the GuardianWhy is it that big, consequential life decisions – whether to have kids, marry a specific person, pursue one career path over another – can feel so agonising? It seems like a stupid question. Obviously, it’s because they really matter. Yet, on closer inspection, that can’t be the whole story. All sorts of other decisions “really matter”, too: whether to seek medical help when you break your leg; whether to use an oven glove to handle an extremely hot dish; whether to park your car on a level crossing. But they’re not agonising at all. They’re so straightforward that it sounds strange even to think of them as decisions.All right, the
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